a bump in the road….

**Disclaimer** if you don’t want to read about pregnancy issues don’t even think about reading this;-)



I awoke this morning to bleeding and lots of it…I called out to my flu-ridden hubby (well we found out later today that he has the flu from his positive and uncomfy flu test) that I was going to the ER. It was before 8am. I knew it was over but I just couldn’t believe it. I mean I am way far along, well further than I usually make it and I had just seen the baby! And seriously, this happens the day after I finally announced it?!


I didn’t give myself time to think, I just went. The volunteer at the front was so sweet and they took me back pretty quickly-the nurses were all fabulous and honestly I was calm. The Dr. came in and asked a ton of questions. When my blood was taken an IV was left “in case.” Yeah, in case I had to get a D & C today…


The Dr was very nice but our hospital needs an early pregnancy unit. You can only go to the Birth Place if you are 20+ weeks pregnant and to be honest, that dr had NO idea what he was doing. But I didn’t care much because he was able to figure out how to turn on that mini ultrasound machine. I was literally so anxious to have him come in but, as I waited,  part of me wanted it to take forever so I could be pregnant just a little longer…He didn’t know how to measure the baby or the heartbeat but  the sweetest words came out of his mouth…Well you have a heartbeat! I was floored-I was sure it was over and I was just trying to be strong. No idea if it was the right speed, but it sounded like it to me so I was okay. He checked me and everything was closed up like it should be. No explanation of the bleeding:(Just told to rest.


I have been scared all day to check for the heartbeat on my home doppler but I finally did-it was there almost immediately-185-188 bmp. Such sweet relief!


So who knows what tomorrow may bring-what I do know is that our baby is still safe and sound where it should be;-)That is all I can hope for!

  • Crystal Holes - November 17, 2013 - 9:47 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear that you have been through so much today. I have had a LOT of issues in my pregnancies as well, in fact, I lost our first son two years ago today, at 30 weeks. I just wanted to let you know that my daughter’s pregnancy was like this, I started bleeding, went in and was told we were losing the baby (the day after my first positive test)then the following Monday her heartbeat was there perfect and strong.. I bled through the ENTIRE pregnancy, and it was just fine. They could never find a reason for the bleeding. I will be praying for you, and I hope you’re able to bring that baby home at the end.ReplyCancel

    • kansas - November 17, 2013 - 9:57 pm


      Thank you for sharing your story-it is crazy all the stuff that can happen! I can’t imagine what you had to go through but congratulations on your baby girl ;-) I bet you were scared!ReplyCancel

  • Vickie Whaley - November 17, 2013 - 9:52 pm

    I have followed you for some time and don’t comment often, but felt I just wanted to share, I have been where you are before and it is a scary place, but know that there are people out there praying and sending good vibes your way….I did want to share that I had a client who had to cancel this weekend, she is in her last trimester and had some unexplained bleeding also, she said it had happened early on in her pregnancy and they couldn’t explain it then or now, but like you all is where it should be and the way it should be, so all she can do now is pray for good things until the precious bundle gets here. Best of luck and great things to come for you!

    • kansas - November 17, 2013 - 9:56 pm

      Vickie, Thank you for sharing! There are explanations and I hope I get one just to put my mind at ease! The baby seems so strong so saying a little prayer.ReplyCancel

  • Samantha Mays - November 17, 2013 - 9:52 pm

    You my friend.. Are a strong soul!! Thank you for sharing!! I am an adoptive Mother (2 awesome boys) we’ve been trying for almost 10 years and finally got pregnant last year. We didn’t get the outcome we had hoped for but now know we CAN get pregnant. Be strong, be calm. You’ve got this!!!ReplyCancel

    • kansas - November 17, 2013 - 9:55 pm

      Awe thank you so much ;-) And congrats on the boys! Boys are crazy and fun! There aren’t answers but I hope you get yours and maybe a little miracle! Pregnancy is a scary thing!ReplyCancel

  • Ashlie - November 17, 2013 - 10:04 pm

    I’m so happy the baby is fine! With my first daughter (she’s 20 months now) I bled a lot. I went to the ER a few times and the first time they couldn’t the heart beat (it was too early) and I was devastated. I continued to have a very difficult pregnancy, I puked the entire time and lost over 40lbs. I gained 6 eventually. Avrie was 6.13. ;) We named her that because we saw somewhere in a book that her name means ‘confirmation’. We needed it a lot those first few months. I hope everything goes smoothly for you and baby here on out and that your hubby feels better too. ;)ReplyCancel

    • kansas - November 17, 2013 - 10:30 pm

      Ashlie, Wow! I think I am going to stop the zofran I have been taking because it is causing lots of other problems so I am hoping this afternoon and night sickness is over soon! Thank you for thinking of me! Congrats on your bundle ;-) My oldest was 6.13 too!ReplyCancel

  • Rochelle - November 17, 2013 - 10:08 pm


    I have recently started following your journey and I have been in this situation myself. Just take care of yourself and rest and know that each and everyone of us are sending prayers your way.

    I’m currently expecting as well and I’m terrified of something happening but know that prayers and hope are what is getting me though this journey as we await our rainbow baby.

    BTW, what is the name of the heartbeat app in the picture? I would love to use something like this.ReplyCancel

    • kansas - November 17, 2013 - 10:31 pm

      Rochelle, I hope you have an uneventful pregnancy! That is the best wish for those of us who don’t have the easiest ones :) Congratulations and let me know how you are doing. I just used my sound recorder to record the Baby Beats monitor :)ReplyCancel

  • Emily - November 17, 2013 - 10:34 pm

    Oh honey big hugs! I went through this with my first living son after losing a baby at 14 weeks. I started heavily bleeding, went to the ER and they were NO help. I had to do blood draws every two days for several weeks. They think that I was carrying twins and one passed. My son is now 8years old and the rest of my pregnancy was completely normal <3

    I had bleeding with my other pregnancies as well and it was normally because I had a kidney stone. Do you have any pain at all? I would get a terrible back ache and even a stomach ache like period cramps and it would freak me out.

    Prayers to you and your family!ReplyCancel

    • kansas - November 17, 2013 - 10:44 pm

      Emily-no! It is weird-zero cramping! But the zofran had been giving me some bad side effects that go along with pregnancy (I won’t mention it here lol). So happy you have your son! And kidney stones while you are pregnant? Wow girl! You are strong!ReplyCancel

  • Seana - November 17, 2013 - 10:41 pm

    Kansas, I have been following your photography and just came across this post. I have to tell you that I also had this happen to me with my second pregnancy. I actually bled very heavily at times for the first 20 weeks! The doctors had no answers for a while, then they diagnosed me with a “friable cervix” It was terrifying to say the least but the baby was safe and is now a very happy and healthy 2 year old boy! I hope that you get to feeling better!ReplyCancel

    • kansas - November 17, 2013 - 10:46 pm

      Seana, Yeah I have spotted this entire pregnancy (not at all with the rest of my healthy pregnancies) and have been told I have a irritable cervix apparently-ugh! I hope it stops because its making me crazy!ReplyCancel

  • Tiffany - November 17, 2013 - 11:09 pm

    Thank GOD you are okay! and thank goodness your baby is still with us too! I’ll keep you in my prayers dear, best wishes always!ReplyCancel

  • Janey - November 17, 2013 - 11:14 pm

    I had a similar situation with both of my children. The second time around though I had an answer. It had a long convoluted name that unfortunately I cannot fully remember. But it was explained to me, to be a kind of bruise that can occur between the layers of the placenta and uterus right at the implantation site. The bruise – or pool of blood drains and that is what causes the bleeding. Excuse the complete lack of medical terminology but as I lay here reading your plight I thought it might help. The only term I can remember is: “subcutaneous hematoma”. I got the clear after sixteen weeks. At eighteen, I started getting contractions which continued to 35 weeks when another bleed forced early delivery. But all is well and turned out beautifully! My first came even earlier though contractions with him started around the seventh month. Just take it easy!ReplyCancel

    • kansas - November 18, 2013 - 1:03 pm

      Janey, I have read a lot about that and thats what it sounds like to me too-I just hope she can see something today to put my mind at ease-I’d rather have a name than something unexplained.ReplyCancel

  • Carrie - November 17, 2013 - 11:30 pm

    Just wanted you to know that I am the product of heavy red bleeding during PG. My poor mom was on bed rest for a little bit, but all was well in the end :).ReplyCancel

  • Tracy - November 18, 2013 - 12:13 am

    hi kansas! i am praying for you and your pregnancy. thank you for sharing and being open and honest. i know it must be hard, but you are helping lots of women. :)ReplyCancel

    • kansas - November 18, 2013 - 1:01 pm

      Tracy, I think you don’t realize how common it is until you are going through it and have to research it a little!ReplyCancel

  • sandy - November 18, 2013 - 3:01 am

    After having 2 miscarriages and finally getting pregnant again, the first sign of bleeding has me freaked out. They put me on prometrium (sp) and with in several days they bleeding stopped and I have a healthy 2 yr old! Definitely a scary feeling! Will be praying for you that you can get some answers to put your mind at ease.ReplyCancel

    • kansas - November 18, 2013 - 1:00 pm

      Sandy, I have heard of that! I am curious what the dr says today :)ReplyCancel

  • Lynn - November 18, 2013 - 6:14 am

    The exact same situation happened to me during my second pregnancy. Bleeding eventually stopped at 13 weeks and no problems from then on until I had a 10lb10 baby. Hoping the same for you!ReplyCancel

    • kansas - November 18, 2013 - 1:00 pm

      Lynn, I would love for it to stop so I can relax! But the 10.10 lb baby……hmmmm you are a strong woman!ReplyCancel

  • Kim - November 18, 2013 - 7:59 am

    I had the same irritable cervix issue and bled during my pregnancies. My doctor painted something on my cervix (looked the color/consistency of peanut butter…not sure what it’s called) and I didn’t have any more issues. It wasn’t necessary, but worth the piece of mind. Wishing you and your growing family the best!ReplyCancel

    • kansas - November 18, 2013 - 12:59 pm

      Kim, I have never heard of that! I will have to look into that :)ReplyCancel

  • Esther Dorotik - November 18, 2013 - 9:28 am

    Hang in there Kansas!! I had that issue from 6-13 weeks…not just spotting but gushing with what looked like tissue. Everyday was a struggle just wondering if it was the day!! My doctor didn’t seem concerned…said it happened more often than most realize. That wasn’t comforting to me though!! She’s now six and healthy. My prayers for you sweetie for strength when you’re weak & peace when you fear!ReplyCancel

    • kansas - November 18, 2013 - 12:58 pm

      Esther, Mine isn’t either which makes me feel better! But it is incomprehensible to me that that can happen and everything be fine! I get to see her at 1:15 today soooo I am hoping for answers!ReplyCancel

  • Jen - November 18, 2013 - 12:38 pm

    Praise God!!! You scared the dickens out of me! :) I remember bleeding with my first one… you know what’s happening, but there’s a small mustard seed-size hope that everything is ok. I am OVERJOYED that you & baby are ok! I know with kids, a sick husband, and running your own business it’s hard to rest & take care of yourself, but please try! Lots of hugs & prayers coming your way :) xoReplyCancel

    • kansas - November 18, 2013 - 12:57 pm

      Thanks Jen! Don’t I know it! I am waiting for her to put me on full bed rest-I don’t know what I would do with myself! My poor hubby is working in the rain today with the flu! Its a crazy week for us for sure!ReplyCancel

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